Marriage is NOT a Partnership – Your Spouse is Not Your Partner

From the Realities of Mawlana (Q) as taught by Shaykh Nurjan Mirahmadi

أَعُوذُ بِاللَّهِ مِنَ الشَّيطَانِ الرَّجِيمِ
بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمَنِ الرَّحِيمْ 

A’uzu Billahi Minash Shaitanir Rajeem
Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem

I seek refuge in Allah from the accursed Satan
In the Name of Allah, the Most Compassionate, the Most Merciful

Alhamdulillahi Rabbil ‘aalameen, was salaatu was salaamu ‘alaa Ashrafil Mursaleen, Sayyidina wa Mawlana Muhammadul Mustafa ﷺ. Madad ya Sayyidi ya Rasulul Kareem, Ya Habibul ‘Azeem, unzur halana wa ishfa’lana, ‘abidona bi madadikum wa nazarekum.

Atiullah wa atiur Rasul wa Ulil amre minkum. Always a reminder for myself, ana abdukal ‘ajeez, wa dayeef, wa miskin, wa zhalim, wa jahl, and but for the grace of Allah (AJ) that we’re still in existence. 

أَطِيعُوا اللَّهَ وَأَطِيعُوا الرَّسُولَ وَأُولِي الْأَمْرِ مِنكُم… ﴿٥٩﴾‏ …

4:59 – “…Atiullaha wa atiur Rasula wa Ulil amre minkum…” (Surat an-Nisa)

“…Obey Allah, obey the Messenger, and those in authority among you…” (The Women, 4:59)

Turn Yourself OFF for Divine Success

Alhamdulillah, in this 10th lunar month and the realities of Shawwal and the secret of binary code and the reality of one and zero, the reality of ON and OFF. This reality of learning to turn OFF is a secret to our life’s success. That everything in the world, satanic system is to turn ON and by virtue of being ON, you can conquer. You can achieve. You are the one. You are the one and only.

The way of the heavens teaches us that actual power, real power and real closeness is learned through the binary code because this is what Islam brought to the world; algebra and the realities of one and nuqt (dot) and the numbers. Why? Because of the immensity of its reality towards the Divinely Presence.

This Material World Teaches Us to Be the ONE

That in every aspect of our life and our spiritual life that if we try to be the one, we draw away from God. We draw away from Allah (AJ) because if you’re the one, there’s no need for ‘The One.’ As a result, you reflect and repel from that presence. All of spiritual practices and religious practices and even the religion itself is called ‘submit’ and Islam, to submit and taslim.

So, that your life’s path is that this material world tells us to be a ONE because that was the character, shaitan (satan). When God asked him to bow down, he said, ‘No, I am the one.’ As a result of coming onto Earth, that is the characteristic of the Earth. The material desires of the Earth is to make you the ONE and that becomes the fir’aunic bloodline, the fir’aunic system and ‘ananiya (I-ness) – ‘I am’.

﴾وَإِذْ قُلْنَا لِلْمَلَائِكَةِ اسْجُدُوا لِآدَمَ فَسَجَدُوا إِلَّا إِبْلِيسَ أَبَىٰ وَاسْتَكْبَرَ وَكَانَ مِنَ الْكَافِرِينَ ﴿٣٤

2:34 – “Wa idh qulna lilmalayikati osjudo li Adama fasajado illa ibleesa aba wastakbara wa kana minal kafireen.” (Surat Al-Baqarah) 

“And [mention] when We said to the angels, ‘Bow Down/make prostration to Adam’; so they prostrated, except for Iblis. He refused and was arrogant and became of the disbelievers/who reject faith.” (The Cow, 2:34) 

Shaitan Deludes Us Into Thinking We’re Great

We said before they talk, everything is ‘I. I did this. I did that. I am this. I have accomplished this.’ Everything in them is about ‘I’. How can that ‘I’ ever submit to go to God? It can’t because it actually thinks it is a god. If you give it enough rope, it will hang itself thinking it’s god. So, Allah (AJ) asks in Qur’an, ‘Have you seen those who they make their desires their lord?’

﴾أَفَرَأَيْتَ مَنِ اتَّخَذَ إِلَـٰهَهُ هَوَاهُ … ﴿٢٣

45:23 – “Afara ayta manit takhadha ilaha hu hawahu…” (Surat Al-Jathiyah)

“Have you seen he who has taken as his god his [own] desire?… ” (The Crouching, 45:23)

Whatever they desire, they say, ‘That’s how God is and as a result, my one and one and we’re together. We’re buddies.’ It’s but an illusion. Allah (AJ) describes shaitan (satan) makes their illusions to seem fair to them. Like, ‘Yeah, yeah, that’s the way it is.’

تَاللَّهِ لَقَدْ أَرْسَلْنَا إِلَىٰ أُمَمٍ مِّن قَبْلِكَ فَزَيَّنَ لَهُمُ الشَّيْطَانُ أَعْمَالَهُمْ فَهُوَ وَلِيُّهُمُ الْيَوْمَ 

16:63 – “Tallaahi laqad arsalnaaa ilaaa umamim min qablika fazayyana lahumush Shaitaanu a’maalahum fahuwa waliyyuhumul yawma…” (Surat An-Nahl)  

“By Allah, We did certainly send [messengers] to nations before you (O Muhammad (pbuh)), but Satan made their deeds attractive/alluring to them. And he is their helper/patron today…” (The Bee, 16:63) 

Islam comes, Prophet ﷺ come and awliyaullah (saints) come as guides to teach: no, no, our life is about the nuqt, to be a dot, to efface oneself and know when to shut OFF. If we’re trying to approach the Divine, then all our training will be based on how to shut OFF so that I have the character of dropping my energy, being nothing, being nothing. As a result of being nothing, you draw nearer to the Divinely Presence.

Who Occupies Your Throne: Your Soul, Ego, or Devil?

So, that’s why then you come to all their teaching and they begin to teach: don’t have pride. Don’t have arrogance. Try to diminish anger. All those characteristics are the characteristics of the people of ONE. The people of this character that they are the ONE because egoism. When egoism enters – we said before in the levels of the nafs (ego) – why somebody’s insulted is because their ego has been insulted. Why someone faces a difficulty is because the ego is insulted. The ego expected something different.

Allah (AJ) wants for us, in our character, to be nothing. If in our life we train in this system of dropping, go back into a phase of nothing, we draw near to the Divinely Presence. Then we begin to identify all our characteristics in life. Then we ask people to think, ‘Who’s sitting on the chair when we react? Is it my soul? Is it my ego? Is it my devil?’ Because everyone has an assigned devil to them to test them so that we can do our daily accounting.

Our Reactions Determine If We Are ON or OFF

As a result of the daily accounting and muhasabah, taking an accounting of oneself and say, ‘Who’s sitting on the chair? These decisions I’m making, these issues I’m facing, the being upset about this or being upset about that’. Then we can understand that this is a process of turning OFF or turning ON.

If it’s for the soul, you’re going to turn OFF. If it’s for the ego, you’re going to turn ON. They said something, you replied. That wasn’t for the soul so then that issue becomes that was from my ego. Something was done to you, you reacted. That was for the ego. Something was said to you, you reacted. That was for the ego. If we give enough to the ego through the day, then we were in the process of becoming ON more than OFF. As a result, we did not draw nearer to Allah (AJ) that day.

When We Achieve the State of OFF, We Reach Closer to Being ON

So, it becomes a lifelong process of, ‘My Lord, please give me the humility to take it in which whatever difficulty is coming, whatever testing is coming is to achieve that state of nothingness in which everything within me wants to be recognized; whether work, family, home, spiritual, whatever it is in life.’ Spiritual most more so because everybody wants to be spiritually recognized.

So, it means that everything is about shutting OFF. If we can achieve that state of OFF, we actually reach closer to being ON. Because the illusionary ON of the devil has no power. Egoism has no power whatsoever. It’s all illusion. People who are egoistic, they talk too much, ‘I have this. I have that. I have this. I have that.’ Allah (AJ), next day, takes it all away. The guy’s in jail. Mmm? ‘Where’s all that? That the power you thought you had?’ Allah (AJ), in a second, can take somebody down. That’s not real power. That’s not really ON.

Reaching a State of Nothing Brings You Closer to ‘The One’

But the one whom reached nothing actually reached The One – The One that counts. If you reach to the One that counts and you become eternally ON for all of eternity. Allah (AJ) dress you from the oceans of daayim (eternal). That, ‘You draw near to My Divinely Presence, I dress you from My Eternal Divinely lights in which eternally your soul is dressed, eternally your soul is blessed, eternally your soul is on a journey towards the Divinely Presence.’ That’s power.

So, then this way is a journey to the Lord of power because of its immensity. You want money? Don’t follow those websites that teach you how to hustle. Follow Allah (AJ) because they don’t write your check, Allah (AJ) writes your check. They give you nothing. They give you the illusion of ideas and that’s everything in this world. If you listen for the fact of information and ideas and resources, no problem. But if you think they’re going to give you something, they’re going to bring you money, the tariqah (spiritual path) teaching is actually: become nothing. Draw near to Allah (AJ), The One who writes your check.

Turn Yourself OFF to Receive Divine Blessings

Because Allah (AJ) is happy with you, He give you in ways that you could never imagine. If all the world tried to stop you, nothing can come near you. But if you didn’t draw near to Allah (AJ) and you drew to the fake one, the dajjalic (deceitful) system, the fir’aunic system, Allah (AJ) says, ‘If they all try to give it to you, I’ll take it but in one second from your life. I take everything from you and you can’t keep it in your hands’.

So, it means in our life, the depth of understanding to be OFF. Then Prophet ﷺ, this is in our journey towards Allah (AJ). Prophet ﷺ came and gave for his nation that we are the people of “Sam’ina wa ata’na”.

﴾سَمِعْنَا وَأَطَعْنَا غُفْرَانَكَ رَبَّنَا وَاِلَيْكَ الْمَصِيْرُ ﴿٢٨٥

2:285 – “Sam’ina wa ata’na, ghufranaka Rabbana wa ilaykal masir.” (Surat Al-Baqarah)

“…We hear, and we obey: (We seek) Thy forgiveness, our Lord, and to Thee is the end of all journeys.” (The Cow, 2:285)

That we heard and we obeyed the command from “Atiullah atiur Rasul wa Ulil amre minkum”, and again “Sam’ina wa ata’na” is binary code. It’s the station in which to listen. The guidance that comes, listen.

﴾أَطِيعُواللَّه وَأَطِيعُوٱلرَّسُولَ وَأُوْلِي الْأَمْرِ مِنْكُمْ… ﴿٥٩…

4:59 – “…Atiullaha wa atiur Rasula wa Ulil amre minkum…” (Surat An-Nisa)

“… Obey Allah, Obey the Messenger, and those in authority among you…” (The Women, 4:59)

Prophet ﷺ is the Reality of the Binary Code

So, what made the prophetic reality his reality? Why is he the Sayyid al Mursaleen – the master of all prophets (as), the master of all creation? Because Allah (AJ) created him from the reality of “sam’ina wa ata’na”. He is the reality ﷺ of the binary code in which his soul is created in that reality. That he is in eternal presence of OFF and the Divine is ON. As a result, what you got of information was from the Divinely Presence.

That’s why the kitab (book), Holy Qur’an, is from Divinely Presence because the master of that book was OFF. It means he didn’t write a book about himself; more mention of Sayyidina Isa (as) and Sayyidina Musa (as) in the book than the name Muhammad ﷺ but all it’s haqqaiqs (realities) are because as he turned OFF, Allah (AJ) revealed. As a result of being OFF, Allah (AJ) revealed immense love for the reality.

Our Biggest Jihad is to Fight Ourselves, Not Others

But we look to people because people think, ‘Well no, we have to be ‘on’ to have power. We have to be ON to go and take our rights.’ So, no if that’s if you want your rights from Fir’aun (Pharaoh). But the way of haqqaiq is in a life of “sam’ina wa ata’na”. That what we heard from Prophet ﷺ, we live our life to complete that to the best of our ability.

It’s not something easy you say, ‘Okay, I’m going to do that tomorrow’. No, it’s the biggest jihad (struggle) that you can have. The biggest fight that you can have is not to fight other people but to fight ourselves to submit to the prophetic law, the prophetic way. Everything that Prophet ﷺ brought for us in our lives, our greatest struggle is to hear and obey and our life is that purpose. So, it means that we’re always calibrating ourselves. Are we trying our best to hear and obey? Because it’s going to require a lot of turning OFF.

Be a Zero in Life – Allah (AJ) is ‘The One’

We said in every aspect of our life, family functions everybody’s ON everybody wants to come looking like they’re ON, you’re going to walk in OFF. ‘You look off,’ is what they say, right? ‘You look off, something, something’s different with you. What’s that big furry thing you have on your face?’ Right? So, you’re OFF and exactly the way Allah (AJ) wanted it. If you’re going to be ON for these people, you’re going to move in a different direction.

If you want to be ‘on’ for the Divinely Presence, you’re going to look ‘off’ to them. ‘Something off with you’. Yeah, in your eyes but not in my Lord’s eyes. So, we’re getting ON and OFF. All of shaitan and all of satan’s program is to get people to falsely think they’re ON and move in that direction. Everything that Prophet ﷺ brought for us – learn to be OFF in life. Learn to take your binary code and see who you are. The only One is Allah (AJ), only One in your life and in my life, only One is Allah (AJ). We are never the one. As a result, your life is a dot.

Allah (AJ) Tests Us By Reminding Us He is ‘The One’

Anything you want to say, anything you want to do, anything you want to achieve, you are dot, not the one. Allah (AJ) is the One, don’t compete with Him because if He loves you and you compete, He smashes you because He loves you. He wants to draw you near, He doesn’t want you into satan’s hands. So, tests come heavy in your life to remind you, ‘I am the One. La ilaha illAllah (There is no deity but Allah). You are nothing and be nothing,’ and they found true power in nothing because the binary code.

If you truly efface, what happens? You become nothing but when ‘The One’ turns you ON, you’re ON by His grace and His majesty. That becomes Hadith al Qudsi (Holy Hadith) that, ‘My servant approached with voluntary worship. They did all of their obligatory worship. I became the eyes in which they see. I became the ears in which they hear, the whole Hadith. ‘I became the lips in which they spoke, the breath in which they breath, the hands in which they touch, the feet in which they move so much so they say Kun faya koon and they are Rabbaniyoon (Lordly Souls).’ 

عَنْ أَبِيِ هُرَيْرَةِ رَضِّيَّ اللهُ عَنْهُ قَالَ‏،‏ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ ‏:‏‏‏ إِنَّ اللهَ تَعَالَىٰ قَالَ‏:‏” …‏وَمَا تَقَرُّبِ إِلَيَّ عَبْدِيِ بِشَيْءٍ أَحُبَّ إِلَيَّ مِمَّا اِفْتَرَضْتُ عَلَيْهِ. وَلَا يَزَالُ عَبْدِي يَتَقَرَّبُ إلَيَّ بِالنَّوَافِلِ حَتَّى أُحِبَّهُ، فَإِذَا أَحْبَبْتُهُ كُنْتَ سَمْعَهُ الَّذِي يَسْمَعُ بِهِ، وَبَصَرَهُ الَّذِي يُبْصِرُ بِهِ، وَيَدَهُ الَّتِي يَبْطِشُ بِهَا، وَرِجْلَهُ الَّتِي يَمْشِي بِهَا. وَلَئِنْ سَأَلَنِي لَأُعْطِيَنَّهُ، … “ [حَدِيثْ اَلْقُدْسِي – صَحِيحْ الْبُخَارِي – رقم:٦٥٠٢] 

‘An Abi Hurairah (ra) qala, Qala Rasulullahi ﷺ : InnAllaha ta’ala qala: “ Wa maa taqarrubi ilayya ‘abdi be shayin ahubba ilayya memma iftaradhtu ‘alayhi. Wa la yazaalu ‘abdi yataqarrabu ilayya binnawafile hatta uhebbahu, fa iza ahbabtuhu kunta Sam’ahul lazi yasma’u behi, wa Basarahul lazi yubsiru behi, wa Yadahul lati yabteshu beha, wa Rejlahul lati yamshi beha. Wa la in sa alani la a’teyannahu, …” [Hadith al Qudsi, Sahih al Bukhari, Raqam: 6502) 

Narrated by Abu Hurairah (ra) that: the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said that: Allah the Almighty said: “… My servant does not draw near to Me with anything more loved by Me than the religious duties I have obligated upon him. My servant continues to draw near to Me with voluntary acts of worship so that I shall love him. When I love him, I am his hearing with which he hears, his seeing with which he sees, his hand with which he strikes, and his foot with which he walks. Were he to ask (something) of Me, I would surely give it to him, …” [Holy Hadith, Authentic by al-Bukhari, # 6502] 

Be Nothing So ‘The One’ Can Dress You and Bless You

This is the proof of the binary code. ‘Not that they approached Me with themselves and thinking they’re great and then I crown them because I agreed with their greatness.’ But the tariqah teaches no, you actually achieve that reality by being nothing, nothing, nothing. Let ‘The One’ dress your ears. Not fir’aun but ‘The One’, ‘The Only One’; La ilaha illAllah. That in every aspect of our life, if we remember that, we’re now going to carry that into our work and into our home.

You are nuqt (dot) and Allah (AJ) is ‘The One’. If I practice that, soon my hearing begins to open because ‘The One’ blesses you with hearing. Say, ‘Now you hear through my hearing means I’ll let you hear what no understanding, no ear can hear,’ each one with a unique gift. Each one sees uniquely by God’s grace. No two people see the same. No even two people comprehend the same thing. If I tell you, ‘Look at this, what do you see there?’ Somebody else and each eye see something different and comprehends something different. Imagine that’s the physical but what Allah (AJ) will give you of spiritual can’t be understood.

Follow Sayyidina Muhammad ﷺ, the Ultimate Nuqt to Allah (AJ)

When you close your eyes to what level Allah (AJ) will let you see, the next person what they see, each unique to their paradise and their reality. They speak from Allah’s (AJ) power. It means that this holy Hadith of Prophet ﷺ, the inheritance of Prophet ﷺ to his nation. ‘If you want that, follow me’. Where Allah (AJ) said in Holy Qur’an, “Qul in kuntum tuhibbon Allaha fattabi’uni, yuhbibkumullah”.

﴾قُلْ إِنْ كُنْتُمْ تُحِبُّوْنَ اللَّـهَ فَاتَّبِعُوْنِيْ يُحْبِبْكُمُ اللَّـهُ وَيَغْفِرْ‌ لَكُمْ ذُنُوْبَكُمْ ۗ وَاللَّـهُ غَفُورٌ‌ رَّ‌حِيمٌ  ﴿٣١

3:31 – “Qul in kuntum tuhibbon Allaha fattabi’uni, yuhbibkumullahu wa yaghfir lakum dhunobakum wallahu Ghaforur Raheem.” (Surat Ali-Imran)

“Say, [O Muhammad], “If you should love Allah, then follow me, [so] Allah will love you and forgive you your sins. And Allah is Forgiving and Merciful.” (Family of Imran, 3:31)

Says, ‘If you want the path of nothing, follow Sayyidina Muhammad ﷺ, his laws and rules, his love and his guidance’ and the most published Prophet ﷺ on Earth. No imaginary where his cup is, where his this is, where…his holy body is in Madinatul Munawwara (Luminous city of Prophet ﷺ), most documented Prophet on Earth. Why? You think it’s a coincidence? You can’t lie. You can’t make it up. You can’t make illusionary stories. His holy life is fully documented. You read it, you learn. You go to the presence, you fly to Madina and the holy body is lying there in wait for his nation to come. As a result, Allah (AJ) wants us to follow. ‘If you want to be nothing, follow Sayyidina Muhammad ﷺ.’

Follow Sunnah to Draw Near to Prophet ﷺ

Then he gave to us, ‘Be from my people.’ We hear and we obey. That we pick up these sunnahs (traditions of Prophet Muhammad ﷺ), we pick up these ways, we pick up these teachings and we say to that, ‘To the best of my ability, my Lord, grant me the strength to follow the way of Sayyidina Muhammad ﷺ.’ Every step of the way, the shaykhs teach try not to leave a sunnah. Try your best to accomplish them and everyone will struggle with different ones.

It doesn’t mean you go somewhere and tap them on the head and said, ‘You followed something wrong,’ only for yourself you guide because Allah (AJ) will then hold you to hypocrisy is that you didn’t follow all of them. How many thousands of sunnahs you want to follow? Each servant uniquely follows their sunnahs and to the best of their ability they try to increase that and as a result…why? Because now you’re drawing near to Prophet ﷺ because you’re not trying to compete with him ﷺ, right? We’re not competing with Allah (AJ).

Become a Nuqt By Following the Way of Prophet Muhammad ﷺ

So we’re going to bring it down now for guidance that Allah (AJ) is going to direct you, say, ‘Okay, you want to be on that path to be nothing? Follow Sayyidina Muhammad ﷺ, most documented Prophet ﷺ on Earth. Don’t make up any garbage stuff. Don’t make up any ridiculous things. Follow the way of Sayyidina Muhammad ﷺ.

As a result of following, you’re now opening that binary code to be nothing. Because you say, ‘Oh Sayyidi, ya Rasul, this is difficult to follow this, to do this’ and to continuously keep your life and family in that direction and that becomes the way of the nuqt. We took a path of the way of the dot. We have that nuqt, nuqt, nuqt. We have the nasheed (song of praise) on the nuqt (dot) because awliya (saints) knew you’re not the one and you’re not following a path of one. You’re following a path of a nuqt, of a dot.

اک نقطے وچ گل مکدی اے

“Ik nukte vich gal mukdi e”

“The whole universe and all its understanding is contained in only one point”

Prophet ﷺ Achieved Abdullah, Complete Submission in Being a Master Nuqt

The world is telling you, ‘Be the one,’ but that’s not for us, that’s for hell. We’re here to gain the entry to paradise and paradise lets all the zeroes in and nuqt in because there’s only but One in Paradise and that’s Allah (AJ). The only La ilaha illAllah. Everything else is teaching us to be a nuqt. His master is Muhammadun Rasulallah ﷺ, the master of the nuqt in which achieved Abdullah, complete submission. He’s the master of the nuqt and that’s why he’s always in Divinely Presence. When Allah (AJ) turns him ON, he has one face facing the nation at all time guiding them because that Hadith is for Prophet ﷺ that, ‘I see with Allah’s (AJ) eyes, I hear with Allah’s (AJ) hearings, I speak with Allah’s (AJ) speaking, my hands, feet,’ all that Hadith. That’s Ayatul Kusi (Verse of the throne). ‘Neither sleep nor slumber overtakes him’.

﴾لَا تَأْخُذُهُ سِنَةٌ وَلَا نَوْمٌ ﴿٢٥٥

2:255 – “Laa taakhuzuhoo sinatunw wa laa nawm” (Surat Al-Baqarah)

“No slumber can seize him nor sleep.” (The Cow, 2:255)

Who Allah (AJ)? No, He was never thinking of sleeping; that’s a description of Prophet ﷺ. At that stage of submission of nuqt, we just said that the nuqt will be dressed by the one. But if you think you’re a one, you go to jahannam (hellfire). But the way was nuqt and Prophet ﷺ begin to give to us that if Allah (AJ) dress you, that’s immense.

Be a Nuqt By Following the Guidance of Ulul Amr

That, ‘Neither sleep nor slumber overtaketh him’. It means that Allah (AJ) is seeing through his eyes, his holy soul, hears through his holy soul. So what do you think the power of that holy soul has? Immense powers, immense realities of Qur’an, Allah (AJ) is dressing His nuqt (dot). For us we come back into our lives, was then we began to follow Prophet ﷺ on this path of a nuqt. What he gave to us, we try our best to follow. What he asked us to abstain with, we try our best to abstain and forbid within our lives.

And then Prophet ﷺ guided for us then, ‘Follow my Ulul Amr (saints). And again the continuation is that in the presence of the shaykh I’m going to be a nuqt and he’ll represent the one. And we try our best in life to follow the guidance, follow the guidance. And as much as we can follow that guidance, we try to achieve so they are in a continuous state of being nothing in the presence of Prophet ﷺ.

Shaitan Has Confused Us With Our Roles and Our Genders

So you’ll see the binary code it goes 1-0, then it goes 1-0 because Allah (AJ) [One] Prophet ﷺ [zero]. Then it has to go 1, why? Because Prophet ﷺ has to be ON, now you are 0. But then the shaykh has to be ON and then his students learn to be dot, nothing. So, this becomes the success to our achievement towards the Divinely Presence of one and zero. ON and OFF is to know in your life who’s ON, who’s OFF.

Now we take that back into our homes. So, this is our spiritual path now within our homes. Why 99% of all people are divorced? Why is difficulty in every job? Because everybody’s ON, everybody’s one, everybody is the one. Between men and women, they don’t know who’s the one. So, they have all this gender garbage. But when they give one of these ‘ones’ boxing gloves and he goes into the rings with the nuqts, he kills them. Transgender boxer killed a lady, smashed her skull in because he said he associates being a woman, went into a ring with a woman and smashed in her entire head. It means we’re playing with the devil.

Men are the ONE in the Home, Representing Allah (AJ), Prophet ﷺ and the Shaykh 

Everyone has to know who’s one, who’s OFF. In a home when everybody’s ‘on’, well, you can see then shaitan is there. From the kids to the spouse and to the male. The man has to know he’s one and he has to represent ‘The One’. He represents the shaykh. He has to represent Prophet ﷺ and he has to represent Allah (AJ). He has to have taken a path to be nothing, nothing, nothing to them, not the home. He took a path to be nothing to them so that he reached to be rijal (people of maturity), guided individual.

With the tarbiyah (discipline) of guidance, this is the system Allah (AJ) had designed for humanity. That the men that go and learn their religion, learn their manners, learn their character, they learned to efface, efface, efface so that they had a hardness and a softness. That they learn to be soft in the presence of their shaykhs, in the presence of Prophet ﷺ and as a result, they were supposed to go back home and be ON because guidance comes.

You Cannot Disrespect the Representative of Prophet ﷺ Within the Home

They have to guide the home. they have to safeguard the home. they have to bring the presence of the one into the home. As a result, the home was to have studied the same teachings. That in your presence we’re ‘off’ and as a result there would have been blessings in the home. When you acknowledge the one, you respect him. You honour him and you listen to him.

Is there any respect for Prophet ﷺ if you ever talked back? Because then you’re acting like one means then you have shaitanic character. ‘Say something back to Prophet ﷺ, answer back, trying to demean, demote and defame somebody,’ what does that mean? If you wouldn’t do it to Prophet ﷺ then should never be done within the home because this is the representative of Sayyidina Muhammad ﷺ within the home; not the woman represents Prophet ﷺ. The man represents Prophet ﷺ. This is in the ideal system and that’s why there would have been peace because they come, they acknowledge, ‘This is the Muhammadan representative. This is the prophetic representative. This is the Divinely representative’.

Shaitan Fooled Us Into Thinking Marriage is a Partnership

So, then the man is in search of his rib not a partner, doesn’t want any partners. He doesn’t want sharik (partner), right? Shaitan came and say, ‘We are partners’. It’s like you go to Allah (AJ) say, ‘I worship God but me and Him we’re good,’ astaghfirullah (I seek forgiveness from Allah (AJ))’. No, no you’re not anything even comparable to Allah (AJ), you’re not a partner, you’re not… Allah (AJ) is not looking for any partners nor is Prophet ﷺ looking for a partner.

You understood on your path you were a nuqt, nothing, dot. But shaitan came into the home and told everybody they’re partners. ‘You’re one, I’m one, we’re all ones,’ the kids are now one too. My goodness, can you imagine the battle now with all these ones? That’s a satanic system, that’s like Fir’aun. That’s like the conference of the Pharaohs because everyone’s a one now and they’re going to pick up the phone and call other people to say, ‘Tell them I’m a one that I can say whatever what I want in this house’. That’s not the Heavenly system.

The Wife is the Rib to the Husband

As a result of following the satanic system, all peace has left. All blessings have left. The only way to be safe through difficulties is not by running a satanic system because people think they’re worshiping Allah (AJ), that they’re loving Prophet ﷺ but they’re running a satanic system at home. ‘There’s no peace, Shaykh’.

Why would there be peace if we didn’t really understand? That you worship Allah (AJ) and your wife is your rib. She’s not your partner. She’s not your boss, not your equal. She comes from within you. But people are now looking for partners, to be sharik. They’re not of the same strength nor do they have the same role from Allah (AJ). When we start boxing each other and say, ‘We’re both strong’. Now you see them. They go into the bathroom, they harm people. It’s some sort of garbage shaitan is playing upon this Earth to people fooling them. But more so giving everybody the opinion they’re all one and as a result, there’s no peace at home.

At Work, Your Boss is 1 and You are 0

Then you carry that to your work too and you think you’re the one and your boss is the one but that’s not true. Allah (AJ) said, ‘He’s the one, you’re a nuqt.’ Learn to be OFF in the presence of your employer and your boss. He’s the boss, sharik, he’s is your governor.

Even for the home the Islamic terminology was rabbil bayt – you are the lord of this house. The prophetic Islamic title is ‘Ya rabbil bayt’; not sharik of the bayt and she’s and you have Rubbubiya (lordship) or how do you call the double lords? Rubab? Arbab. Yeah, these are the arbab of the house. No, you’re rabbil bayt, you’re the lord of this house. But shaitan came and whispered to everybody, ‘No, no you’re also a lord too,’ but it ruined the system.

To Defame the Husband is To Take Away His God-given Role and Rights

As a result, you try to take the energy away from that one by insulting the one, defaming the one, making all sorts of comments to the one, you took away his God-given right. As a result, he’s no longer interested in you because he’s created to be one. You want to pull his oneness away, immediately he retreats.

Says, ‘My role is not to be a dot in this house and you cut your hair short and think you’re a man, but your job was to submit. Let the barakah (blessing) of guidance come into the home and I take the role of being the one whom represents Allah (AJ) and represents the presence of Sayyidina Muhammad ﷺ’. There would have been sakinah (tranquility) and peace in the home. Because people think they’re doing their Islam, they’re doing all their tariqah things and then this other modality ‘We work on that later,’ but days of difficulty are coming.

The Satanic System is Disorienting Our Children

If people don’t know their role because they think with the shaykh they’re going to be a one. Then they think with Prophet ﷺ they’re going to be a one. They talk if their buddies, ‘This one I do, that one I don’t do, this one I don’t know, I don’t really know, I don’t know think about.’ What are you talking about? You’re not a partner with Sayyidina Muhammad ﷺ. Your role was to say, ‘Oh yeah, that’s the rule but I can’t follow it. I don’t know how to get to it maybe, inshaAllah, Allah (AJ) guide me’.

But our role was that we were a nuqt, a nuqt, a nuqt and at home, you now represent the one. Let’s see how you can govern your home. Understand the satanic system has now destroyed it because now even the little one can’t even walk, he’s a one; he’s got an opinion and a whole direction he’s going to go, right. They want to orient the two years old, three years old people. They don’t even know what their existence is and now want to change them in different directions – is a satanic system.

The Home Will Collapse When the Wife Steps Outside Her God-given Role

But Allah (AJ) had created a perfected system and told you she’s from your rib, she’s from within you.

عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ رَضِيَ اللهُ عَنْهُ قَالَ: قَالَ رَسُولُ  اللَّهِ ﷺ: “اسْتَوْصُوا بِالنِّسَاءِ فَإِنَّ الْمَرْأَةَ خُلِقَتْ مِنْ ضِلَعٍ وَإِنَّ أَعْوَجَ شَىْءٍ فِي الضِّلَعِ أَعْلاَهُ، فَإِنْ ذَهَبْتَ تُقِيمُهُ كَسَرْتَهُ، وَإِنْ تَرَكْتَهُ لَمْ يَزَلْ أَعْوَجَ، فَاسْتَوْصُوا بِالنِّسَاءِ خَيْرًا” [صَحِيحُ البُخَارِي،٣١٥٣ ،كِتَابُ أَحَادِيثِ الأَنْبِيَاءِ، بَابُ خَلْقِ آدَمَ صَلَوَاتُ اللهِ عَلَيْهِ وَذُرِّيَّتِهِ] [صَحِيحُ مُسْلِم،  ١٤٦٨، كِتَابُ الرَّضَاعِ، بَابُ الوَصِيَّةِ بِالنِّسَاءِ]

‘An Abi Hurairah (ra), qala: qala Rasulullahi ﷺ: “Istawsu bin nissayi fayinnal mar’ata khuliqat min dhila‘in, wayinna a‘waja shayin fid dhila’i a‘laaho, fayin zahabta tuqimuho kasartaho, wayin taraktaho lam yazal a‘waja, fastawsu bin nissayi khayran.” [Sahih al Bukhari 3153, Sahih Muslim 1468]

Abu Hurairah (ra) reported: The Messenger of Allah (pbuh), said, “I enjoin you to treat women well, for the woman was created from a rib and the most curved part of the rib is its highest point. If you try to straighten it you will break it. If you leave it as it is, it will remain bent. Thus, I enjoin you to be good to women.” [Sahih al Bukhari 3153, Sahih Muslim 1468]

If the home understood the reality like we just explained it to Allah (AJ), imagine then the power that people would have had, right. If that person was really a nuqt at home, she can fully take the operation of that man just like Allah (AJ) dresses you. If the person is loving, kind, respectful, they gain the power of the man, the vision of the man and the support of the man because he would do anything for nuqt because it’s in his being to feed them, support them and shelter. But when you become a one like you want to do boxing with him, you’re taking away that understanding and that reality and that person now is completely disoriented from a Divinely guidance and a Divinely system. Hence, then the collapse of everything.

Follow the Binary Code of Sam’ina wa Ata’na

So, in our lives this becomes every aspect of our life is a binary code, of “sam’ina wa ata’na”. My role was to submit. I want to submit to Allah (AJ) then I’m going to find a way to submit to Prophet ﷺ. When I’m serious about submitting to Prophet ﷺ, I’m going to find his Ulul Amr, his guides, his tariqahs and I try my best to follow to the best of my ability.

That shaykh says this, I try my best, try my best because I’m going to challenge myself in submitting. As a result, I’m being dressed with that oneness. When I go into my home, then I have to be respected like the one that this is a Muhammadan representative. Don’t do anything against that reality. Then go take all the Hadith of how angered Allah (AJ) is by somebody who disrespects their husband in their home.

When You Defy Your Role, You Come Against Allah’s (AJ) System

That’s why because Allah (AJ) says, ‘They’re coming against Me. They’re coming against Sayyidina Muhammad ﷺ,’ and they’re listening to shaitan to destroy the heavenly kingdom system. How angered Allah (AJ) is when you bother your boss, same rules. That again, you’re acting like the one but this person is paying you, taking care of you. You’re trying to cheat the work and not do the work that you were supposed to do, all of these same realities.

That’s why these Hadith are in this situation because people say, ‘Oh, why are some of these Hadith so sort of powerful against?’ because the system. When you come against the Muhammadan representative, it’s not something small to God because you’re actually saying, ‘I’m coming against You because You made this system. I’m coming against Sayyidina Muhammad ﷺ because he’s a part of that system’. So, there are many people that you are trying to defame when you have that type of characteristic.

Difficulties Come When We Don’t Fulfill Our God-given Roles

So, the tariqahs come and teach us that “sam’ina wa ata’na” and the binary code and ‘on’ and ‘off’ because tonight’s version of ‘on’ and ‘off’ is in every aspect of our life. Not, ‘Oh Shaykh, it just only for meditation,’ it’s in every aspect of our lives. If we can’t figure the system out and that the people we’re with have absolutely no respect for the system, hence the difficulties. But it’s very difficult for somebody to play a role that’s not their God-given role.

That’s why they have difficulties and they have to keep praying for Allah (AJ) for guidance that guide them, guide them and that, inshaAllah, the guidance of people to come and say that look if we want tranquility, you’re not giving a power. Because the same people in dunya (material world) say, ‘No, if I don’t act like the one, I’m never going to have any power.’ It’s the falseness of the power. Same with the home. They say, ‘If I don’t act like a one and be co-boxer in the home oh I won’t get my way on anything’.

Become Nothing and Allah (AJ) Will Dress Your Home With Everything

No, there was proof from the world. Whatever you want, you became nothing, Allah (AJ) dressed you with everything because it’s the reverse of what this world teaches you. ‘Shaykh, if I go out and I have to go out and say this and say that and do like this so that people will know me.’ No! True, true knowledge of you will only come from Allah (AJ). In the mastering of being nothing, Allah (AJ) dress you with everything.

Then imagine people in the home. Of course, they would. If they truly dressed with nothing, Allah (AJ) would have dressed the home with everything because a nuqt can get its way with one. I don’t know if the words come true or come clear. When they become real good nuqts, we call them awliya. You know what that means? They’re friends but they’re like spoiled children of God because when they ask Allah (AJ), He gives to them in ways they can’t imagine.

Awliya Are Like Spoiled Children to God

They ask and Allah (AJ) gives to them like kids. Not because they’re one, but because they took such a path of nothing, nothing, nothing that when they ask God He gives to them because ‘You’re drawn very near to Me for all of the times that you’ve been nothing’. Mawlana (Q) would describe they’re like spoiled children.

Whatever they’re asking for, Allah (AJ) is granting them in ways that people can’t even imagine how things come to them. It wasn’t that they had to go out and take it. We’re not Vikings. We don’t have to go take things from people. ‘They’re mine now.’ No, you had to be nothing. That doesn’t make sense to anyone in the world, in the material world. ‘What do you mean be nothing?’ Yeah, be nothing, He give you everything. You make du’a (supplication) and something, somebody wired money into your account, in ways you can’t imagine. If you took a path to nothing, Allah (AJ) send you everything.

Being Nothing Unlocks God’s Endless Bounty

We have a very famous wrapper here, Mr Dylan. But not those kind of rappers, car wrapper. He’s not those kind of rapper. Mr Cullen is a car wrapper, a beautiful servant of Allah (AJ). We needed the van wrapped, we took it to his service, he says, ‘Oh, I have an affinity with Sufism. Bismillah, on me’. Our lives are daily like this to meet the true servants of Allah (AJ) and you don’t know where they’re hidden.

They take these truck to go get food and the store empties everything from what they have into the food. They have so much they bring to his driveway, thousands. Where people can’t afford food now, they’re bringing it to the driveways of our homes saying, ‘Here’s you know these 500 cases, give them to people. We don’t want to throw it away’. This was not from being a one and a Viking going scaring people to do this. It was taking a path of being nothing. Say, ‘My Lord, I don’t know how, how am I going to do it. Just help me,’ and whatever they ask, their Lord bounty is endless.

True Submission Brings Abundance

Allah (AJ) has…it’s not a, it doesn’t take anything from Allah (AJ), it doesn’t empty His pockets. So, their life was to come back and prove to people really you don’t have to be a Viking and conquer everything. You only had to be nothing. Now imagine somebody who is an expert in nothing at home. If that spouse prays, everything will come into that home.

Allah (AJ) will make the man to do what was necessary, will make the family to do everything because they understood to be a nuqt. But shaitan comes to people and says, ‘No, you be a Viking,’ but that doesn’t work. You think you’re going to get from Prophet ﷺ because he’s scared of you? ‘I’m going to leave the sunnah. Give me what I want’. No! But you’re a nuqt, you’re a nuqt, you’re a nuqt. You make a du’a and He says, ‘I love you. For the sake of My love for you, what are you asking?’

Strive to Be a Nuqt Through Any Difficulties

InshaAllah, a reminder for myself as we’re all facing always difficulties, this path is to be nothing and there’s always a constant reminder. Our life is like a nail and everybody seems to be a hammer to knock you on the head and bring you down back to nothingness. We pray that Allah (AJ) make it easy for everybody in this ocean of trying to submit and unify people’s hearts whom are broken, inshaAllah. Those whom are distant to bring near and those whom are sick to be healed and those whom have that love for the Divinely Presence to find guidance, inshaAllah.

Subhana rabbika rabbal ‘izzati ‘amma yasifoon, wa salaamun ‘alal mursaleen, walhamdulillahi rabbil ‘aalameen. Bi hurmati Muhammad al-Mustafa ﷺ wa bi siri Surat al-Fatiha.

Special thanks to our transcribers for their help with transcribing this suhbah.

Original Date of Suhbah: May 4, 2023

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