Realities of a Zawj (Mate) on Earth, Within, and in Heavens

April 14, 2020 October 21, 2020

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From the Realities of Mawlana Shaykh (Q) as taught by Shaykh Nurjan Mirahmadi

A’udhu Billahi Minash Shaitanir Rajeem
Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem

I seek refuge in Allah from Satan, the rejected one
In the Name of Allah, the Most Beneficent, the Most Merciful

Atiullaha wa atiur Rasula wa Ulil amre minkum

﴾أَطِيعُواللَّه وَأَطِيعُوٱلرَّسُولَ وَأُوْلِي الْأَمْرِ مِنْكُمْ… ﴿٥٩…

4:59 – “…Atiullaha wa atiur Rasula wa Ulil amre minkum…” (Surat An-Nisa)

“… Obey Allah, Obey the Messenger, and those in authority among you…” (The Women, 4:59)

Always a reminder for myself ana abduka ajiz wa daif wa miskeen wa jahl and that by the Grace of Allah (AJ) that I’m still in existence. We took a path to be nothing and not to claim ourselves to be anything and we exist by Allah’s (AJ) Rahmah (mercy).

From Heart of Holy Qur’an – Surat Yaseen 36:36

A reminder for myself always that we play from ayatul Qur’an where Mawlana Shaykh (Q) is giving us that reality and that light, inshaAllah. “Subhanalladee khalaqal azwaja kulla mimma tumbitul ardhu wa min anfusihim wa mimma la ya’lamoon.”

﴾سُبْحَانَ الَّذِي خَلَقَ الْأَزْوَاجَ كُلَّهَا مِمَّا تُنبِتُ الْأَرْضُ وَمِنْ أَنفُسِهِمْ وَمِمَّا لَا يَعْلَمُونَ ﴿٣٦

36:36 – “Subhaanal lazee khalaqal azwaaja kullahaa mimmaa tumbitul ardu wa min anfusihim wa mimmaa laa ya’lamoon” (Surat YaSeen)

“Glory to Allah, Who created in pairs all things that the earth produces, as well as their own kind and things of which they have no knowledge.” (YaSeen, 36:36)

Sadaqallah hul azheem wa barakat Rasulul Kareem ﷺ. InshaAllah, from Suratul YaSeen, surat 36, verse 36. That surat YaSeen is the heart of Holy Qur’an and Manzil al Qur’an (house of Qur’an) in which holy Qur’an is emanating from the heart of Sayyidina Muhammad ﷺ. And Surat YaSeen and Sayyidina YaSeen ﷺ means every reality is flowing from the heart of Sayyidina Muhammad ﷺ. And in this understanding and in this way of ma’rifah (gnosticism), the importance of understanding the self, the importance of women, and the importance of our reality.

Allah (AJ) Created All Things With a Mate

What Mawlana Shaykh wants as a reminder for ourselves, is that Allah (AJ) in this ayat kareem is, ‘Glory be to Him.’ Allah (AJ) is stressing the importance of this ayat (verse) by saying His Subhan and putting His Subhan (glory) upon what is about to be coming from this ayat. Subhana that, ‘Glory be to Him Who created all things in pairs.’

Now their English is incorrect. Khalaqal azwaj, it is not ‘pairs of fruits.’ Everything Allah (AJ) created with azwaj, with a mate. Everything Allah (AJ), His Subhan, ‘Glory be to Me that I have created everything with a mate, with an azwaj,’ because zawj (mate) has a deep inner reality. ‘That which is on the Earth, that which is within themselves and that which they don’t know.’ Fil ardhi, anfusihim, ‘within themselves’, and la ya’lamoon ‘that which they don’t know yet’. That is through the oceans of ma’rifah (gnosticism).

36:36 – “Subhaanal lazee khalaqal azwaaja kullahaa mimmaa tumbitul ardu wa min anfusihim wa mimmaa laa ya’lamoon” (Surat YaSeen)

“Glory be to Him, Who created with a mate all things that grow on earth, and from themselves/their soul, and from that which they do not know.” (YaSeen, 36:36)

We Do Not Realize We Are Oppressors to Ourselves

From that, they are pulling that reality to teach us that in this season of weddings, seasons of marriage, and all around us is marriages are collapsing. When Allah (AJ) is describing humans, ‘Verily, you are an oppressor to yourself.’

﴾إِنَّ اللَّـهَ لَا يَظْلِمُ النَّاسَ شَيْئًا وَلَـٰكِنَّ النَّاسَ أَنفُسَهُمْ يَظْلِمُونَ ﴿٤٤

10:44 – “Innal laaha laa yazlimun naasa shai’anw wa laakin nannaasa anfusahum yazlimoon” (Surat Yunus)

“Indeed, Allah does not wrong the people at all, but it is the people who are oppressor to themselves/their soul.” (Jonah, 10:44)

And if we talk to people who are out and doing crazy things in life, they don’t think that they are oppressing themselves at all. They actually, when you talk to them, they think they are having fun. They think that they are living life to the fullest with every crazy thing that they want to do and no inhibition, no stopping. Just do what you want, as much as you want. So then whom is Allah (AJ) referring to that, ‘You are an oppressor to yourself?’ Allah (AJ) is not caring only for the physicality because the physicality goes back to the dirt. There must be something Allah (AJ) is concerned about. Divine Presence knows that this body – you are going to throw to the dirt and most likely I am going to send the worms to eat you.

We Have a Mate in Dunya, Within Ourselves, and in Paradise

What then is Allah (AJ) worried about? What is He warning us about? He said, ‘I gave to you a zawj. I gave to you — for English word — a wife, a mate. It is not really a wife, but it is a mate. I gave to you from your reality, your reality in heavens. The body is not your reality. The body is a vehicle in which you are using on this Earth and you are an oppressor to that mate.’ And Allah (AJ) is giving that ayat al Kareem that, ‘There is a mate of dunya. There is a mate within yourself. And there is a mate in Paradise.‘

36:36 – “Subhaanal lazee khalaqal azwaaja kullahaa mimmaa tumbitul ardu wa min anfusihim wa mimmaa laa ya’lamoon” (Surat YaSeen)

“Glory be to Him, Who created with a mate all things that grow on earth, and from themselves/their soul, and from that which they do not know.” (YaSeen, 36:36)

This material world thinks the soulmate is you find somebody you love, and that’s your soulmate. No, no, Allah’s (AJ) haqaiq is something completely different.

Admit That We Are Oppressors to Ourselves

So, this means we come to the turuqs (spiritual ways) to clean ourself, to take away zulumat (oppression) and that, “laa ilaha illa anta subhanaka, inni kuntu minaz zhalimeen.” (Qur’an, 21:87) That we have to admit in our life that if I am in this turuq (spiritual path) and Allah (AJ) guided me to this turuq. I am, ya Rabbi, Your Greatness, You are Subhan, but I am an oppressor to myself. And Allah (AJ), ‘We will give them a najat (salvation) if they acknowledge they are an oppressor to themselves.’

﴾لَّا إِلَـٰهَ إِلَّا أَنتَ سُبْحَانَكَ إِنِّي كُنتُ مِنَ الظَّالِمِينَ ﴿٨٧﴾ فَاسْتَجَبْنَا لَهُ وَنَجَّيْنَاهُ مِنَ الْغَمِّ ۚ وَكَذَٰلِكَ نُنجِي الْمُؤْمِنِينَ ﴿٨٨…

21:87-88 – “…la ilaha illa anta Subhanaka, innee kuntu minazh zhalimeen. (87) Fastajabna lahu wa najjayna hu minal ghammi, wa kadhalika nunjee almumineen. (88)” (Surat Al-Anbiya)

“…There is no god/diety except You; Glory to you: Indeed I have been of the wrongdoers/Oppressor to Myself!” (87) So We responded to him and saved him from the distress. And thus do We save the believers. (88)” (The Prophets, 21:87-88)

Women Have Great Importance in Islam

So then the turuq (spiritual way), this is now the way of understanding that mate, and the importance of women in Islam, the importance of women in spirituality. How much Prophet ﷺ put an importance upon them, and the love and the respect upon them, and their children – their paradise is under the feet of your mother and how much it’s abused now.

“عَنْ أَنَسَ بِنْ مَالِكُ رَضِيَ اللهُ عَنْهُ : قَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَ سَلَّمَ “الجَنَّةُ تَحْتَ أَقْدَامِ الأُمَّهَاتِ

‘An Anas bin Maliku (ra) Qala, Qala Rasulullahi ﷺ
“Al Jannatu tahta aqdamil ummahati.” [Sunan bin Maja]

Narrated by Annas bin Malik that the Messenger of Allah, Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: “Paradise is under the feet of the mothers.” [bin Maja]

How much it is taken advantage of now, and how much people put their horrible culture upon Islam that does not have anything to do with what Prophet ﷺ brought. But what Prophet ﷺ brought for us is that before your marriage of Earth, anfusihum (within) – the one whom with you all the time, make that marriage work. So, lucky are the ones who come young into tariqa (spiritual path) so that they can make their real marriage work.

Islam Perfects the Physicality to Guard the Soul

Then the turuq begins to teach them that, ‘Your physicality is the male aspect of your body,’ for men and women, it doesn’t make a difference. This is a haqaiq (reality). But for us to understand that this is a zawj, a mate, but you translate it to ‘wife’ in Arabic is different. Zawj is a mate, it’s non denominational – it has nothing to do with male and female. But for us to understand, we have to speak in a language for people to have an understanding.

Your body, your physicality is your Islam, it’s your shield. Your Islam has to be strong, your deen (religion) has to be strong. The body has to have istiqam and firmness because it is guarding something very precious inside. It’s guarding a cargo from Allah (AJ). That is what Allah (AJ) is making reference to, ‘I brought you this deen not to oppress other people, but to perfect this treasure I put within you, this zawj, this mate, that I have put upon you. And you are responsible to feed her, to dress her, to nourish her, to bring her true power out.’ That zawj’s power out, the power of her soul, the power of her reality, and she will bring all azmatullah upon your being.

So, it means all of Islam is for the physicality, that discipline the physicality, correct the physicality. Know your boundary and your limits, and don’t exceed upon them. Don’t move beyond yourself to do anything and any harm. So Islam comes to perfect the physicality.

Station of Iman (Faith) is All About Love

muhammad heart Then the turuqs begin to teach that that within you and the reality of the soul, when you discipline the physicality, that is the Islam. Now bring out the reality of your soul which is Maqamul Iman. And Maqamul Iman (Station of Faith) is then the whole story of love, where Prophet ﷺ clarifies for us, ‘You have to love me more than you love yourself.’

لاَ يُؤْمِنُ أَحَدُكُمْ حَتَّى أَكُونَ أَحَبَّ إِلَيْهِ مِنْ وَالِدِهِ وَوَلَدِهِ وَالنَّاسِ أَجْمَعِينَ ‏”‏‏.‏

“La yuminu ahadukum hatta akona ahabba ilayhi min walidihi wa waladihi wan Nasi ajma’yeen.”

“None of you will have faith till he loves me more than his father, his children and all mankind.” Prophet Muhammad (pbuh)

Undisciplined Physicality Oppresses the Soul

So anybody wants a successful marriage — we are talking anfusihum (within yourself). The one inside first — because this will also teach counter-terrorism, counter-extremism, counter crazy-ism. Because if a person goes unchecked, untrained, and becomes a zalim (oppressor) to himself where his physicality is oppressing his soul, is destroying his soul, no doubt that one is overcome by shaitan (satan) and begins his zulumat upon everyone. His zulumat (oppression) will move onto everyone. He is a zalim (oppressor) to himself, you don’t think he will be zalim to everything and begin to inflict harm and pain upon all of Allah’s (AJ) Creation?

So, then the cure for that oppression is to train them back, fix the zulumat (oppression) within ourselves. That understand your boundary and your limits. Put upon your physicality, a discipline. Anything without discipline becomes wild. It is a beast. The physicality is a beast, it has to be domesticated. Any wild beast, any horse, even when you love a horse and you want to go horseback riding, if it is not trained, that horse is going to kill you. If you domesticate the horse, it becomes a ride in which you can ride and you can move and accomplish what Allah (AJ) wants us to accomplish.

Be Careful Who You Love

Then the discipline of the soul and the reality of the soul is muhabbat (love), “Qul inkuntum tuhiboonallah fatabioni“.

﴾قُلْ إِنْ كُنْتُمْ تُحِبُّوْنَ اللَّـهَ فَاتَّبِعُوْنِيْ يُحْبِبْكُمُ اللَّـهُ وَيَغْفِرْ‌ لَكُمْ ذُنُوْبَكُمْ ۗ وَاللَّـهُ غَفُورٌ‌ رَّ‌حِيمٌ ﴿٣١

3:31 – “Qul in kuntum tuhibbon Allaha fattabi’oni, yuhbibkumullahu wa yaghfir lakum dhunobakum wallahu Ghaforur Raheem.” (Surat Ali-Imran)

“Say, [O Muhammad], “If you should love Allah, then follow me, [so] Allah will love you and forgive you your sins. And Allah is Forgiving and Merciful.” (Family of Imran, 3:31)

Allah (AJ) wants the greatest gift for that soul. He says this soul is so precious and now how Allah (AJ) will begin to describe “Qul inkuntum tuhiboonallah fattabioni yuhbibkumullah.” You want the greatest love for that soul, I want the highest reality for that soul. Be careful, because this world, they want to love each other. And there are people who talk that, ‘You are my everything. You are like my God. You are my paradise.’ You are incorrect. And Allah (AJ) will grant that person what they wanted. That is the scary sadness of it all. Allah (AJ) is Great, Allah (AJ) is Just. You die and all your life was just about the spouse, and you loved the spouse as if they were everything. Then Allah (AJ) will ask you, ‘What is it that you want? Are you coming?’

You Will Be With Whom You Love

And Prophet’s ﷺ hadith comes to purify and to clarify, ‘You will be with whom you love.’

قَالَ رَسُول اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه و سلم: الْمَرْءُ مَعَ مَنْ أَحَب

Qala Rasulullah (saws): “Almar o, ma’a man ahab.”

Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) said: “One is with those whom he loves.”

Good news and a warning; warning, ‘Be careful who you love,’ because you will be with them. All you did was condition yourself to be with that person. As soon as you pass away, Allah (AJ) will grant you, ‘Be with them, good or bad, be with them.’ You loved them in dunya (material world), your soul is attached to them – it doesn’t know anything else. It is not all of a sudden going to reach to the grave and think it loves something else. What you have attached your soul to, of whatever craziness, insanity, whatever you can imagine you are attaching your love to, Allah (AJ) will grant that love to you. ‘Be with it!’ And you will be so far from the reality.

Allah (AJ) Wants the Highest Love for Us

What Allah (AJ) wants for us? What Allah (AJ) wants for us is the highest love. That is why awliyaullah (saints) come into our life and say that, ‘God’s Mercy is unimaginable. Be careful what you love. Be careful what you are focused on and what you are dedicating everything to. Dedicate that love and that heart to the highest which its eternity and its reality is beyond imagination, and which eternally flows fountains of abundance upon you. The love of the Divine.’

Allah (AJ) says, ‘That heart of yours, I made no man with two hearts.’ ‘That heart of yours is the house of the soul. That wife of yours inside, that zawj and that mate of yours inside, teach her the correct love – not the love of physicality, not the love of people, but the love of the Divine, love of the Divine.’

﴾مَّا جَعَلَ اللَّـهُ لِرَجُلٍ مِّن قَلْبَيْنِ فِي جَوْفِهِ ۚ … ﴿٤

33:4 – “Ma ja’ala Allahu lirajulin min Qalbayni fee jawfihi…” (Surat Al-Azhab)

“Allah has not made for a man two hearts in his interior…” (The Combined Forces, 33:4)

Follow Habibullah ﷺ (Beloved of Allah) To Gain Allah’s (AJ) Love

If that soul is trained to love Allah (AJ) and wants nothing but Allah (AJ), Allah (AJ) will guide that soul “qul inkuntum tuhibbunallah. ‘If you want My Love, make your life ‘fatabioni’.

﴾قُلْ إِنْ كُنْتُمْ تُحِبُّوْنَ اللَّـهَ فَاتَّبِعُوْنِيْ يُحْبِبْكُمُ اللَّـهُ … ﴿٣١

3:31 – “Qul in kuntum tuhibbon Allaha fattabi’oni, yuhbibkumullahu…” (Surat Ali-Imran)

“Say, [O Muhammad], “If you should love Allah, then follow me, [so] Allah will love you …” (Family of Imran, 3:31)

Fatabioni, you have to be from tabi’een (followers) and itibah (following). You give your whole life because I want your love, ya Rabbi. And Allah (AJ) says, ‘My Love is with Sayyidina Muhammad ﷺ and he is my Habibullah (beloved of Allah). All Creation is looking for My Love and I am looking to please My Beloved Sayyidina Muhammad ﷺ.’ All the prophets were seeking Allah’s (AJ) Love. Allah (AJ) was sending His Love to Prophet ﷺ granting, ‘What is it that you want, My Habibullah! To make you happy; to make you satisfied, I am giving you the highest of gifts. I am giving you My Divinely speech, Holy Qur’an.’

Anfusihum (Inner Marriage): Your Soul Should Be in Love with Prophet ﷺ

This means then they come to purify and perfect that this love of yours – make it for Allah (AJ). Make that soul to understand that reality to love and to praise upon Prophet ﷺ. Then Prophet ﷺ comes into our life and teaches that, ‘That soul, it should love me more than it loves you. More than it loves your body, it should love me.’

لاَ يُؤْمِنُ أَحَدُكُمْ حَتَّى أَكُونَ أَحَبَّ إِلَيْهِ مِنْ وَالِدِهِ وَوَلَدِهِ وَالنَّاسِ أَجْمَعِينَ ‏”‏‏

“La yuminu ahadukum hatta akona ahabba ilayhi min walidihi wa waladihi wan Nasi ajma’yeen.”

“None of you will have faith till he loves me more than his father, his children and all mankind.” Prophet Muhammad (pbuh)

Because it is the world of light, it will attach. That light will move close to Prophet ﷺ and begin to attach to Prophet ﷺ. And that is the opening of the reality of that azwaj, that that soul is moving towards true love. Its true love in which Prophet ﷺ will begin to dress it. Anfusihum (within) is the one that should be in love with Prophet ﷺ.

When Allah (AJ) Loves You, He Teaches You Muhammadan Reality

It is from malakut (heavenly realm) and everything but the Holy Face will perish, in malakut even. It means every reality is the dress of Sayyidina Muhammad ﷺ.

﴾وَلَا تَدْعُ مَعَ اللَّـهِ إِلَـٰهًا آخَرَ ۘ لَا إِلَـٰهَ إِلَّا هُوَ ۚ كُلُّ شَيْءٍ هَالِكٌ إِلَّا وَجْهَهُ ۚ لَهُ الْحُكْمُ وَإِلَيْهِ تُرْجَعُونَ ﴿٨٨

28:88 – “Wala tad’uo ma’Allahi ilahan aakhara la ilaha illa huwa kullu shayin halikun illa wajha hu la hul hukmu wa ilayhi turja’oon.” (Surat Al-Qasas)

“…Everything (that exists) will perish except His holy Face. To Him belongs the Command, and to Him you will be returned.” (The Stories, 28:88)

When Allah (AJ) loves His servant, He begins to teach them the haqiqat al Muhammadiya (Muhammadan Reality). Allah (AJ) doesn’t teach anything about His Divinely Presence, it is la sharik. Allah’s (AJ) secret is for Allah (AJ). When Allah (AJ) loves you, He teaches you the secret of Sayyidina Muhammad ﷺ.

So, the reality of the inner marriage: if someone is not taking a path in which to have a perfected inner marriage, and begins to struggle with all his desires or her desires, begins to perfect their character, take away zulumat (oppression). And enter into the Oceans of Love, Oceans of Fragrance and perfumed love of Sayyidina Muhammad ﷺ in which Prophet ﷺ then comes and begins to open that ocean of that love.

Three Things Made Dear to Prophet ﷺ: Perfume, Women and Prayer

Prophet ﷺ, his holy hadith that, Allah (AJ) has made three things dear for me.

عَنْ أَنَسِ بْن مَالِكٍ رَضِيَ اللهُ عَنْهُ قَالَ :قَالَ رَسُولُ الله ﷺ :حُبِّب إليَّ مِنْ دُنْيَاكُمْ : اَلطِّيِبْ؛ وَالنِّسَاءُ؛ وَجُعِلَتْ قُرَّةُ عَيْنِيْ فِي الصَّلَاةْ

‘An Anas bin Malik (ra) qala: Qala Rasulullahi ﷺ “Hubbi ilaya min dunyakum: Attayib, wan Nisa, wa ju’ilat qurratu ‘ayni fis Salat.”

Anas bin Malik (Ra) narrated from Prophet (saws) “Made beloved to me from your world are perfume/Purity, and Women, and the coolness of my eyes is in prayer.” (Jami’ al-Saghir, Hadith 5435. Classified as Sahih by Albani)

Pure Souls Give a Perfumed Fragrance

Allah (AJ) made tibb, perfume. But tibb is also from ya tayba, from purity. Prophet ﷺ is teaching us, ‘Allah (AJ) made three things dear for me. When you are now moving to that zawj, that mate inside you, be very careful. Be sensitive with that. Allah (AJ) made this very dear for me.’ And the opening to that reality is the attar and the fragrance, but in reality it is tibb and purity. That when you safeguard its purity, its cleanliness, it’s going to give you an immense fragrance.

Your soul has a fragrance. If people smell your soul, they smell roses in their home. They smell sandalwood depending upon the fragrance that that wali (saint) has. When people smell fragrances in their homes, these are the souls of awliya (saints) because Prophet’s ﷺ hadith is teaching that, ‘Allah (AJ) made it dear for me to be pure, to be clean, and the attar and fragrance that comes from mutahireen.’ Be tawabeen (those who repent) and mutahireen (those who purify themselves). All our wudu (ablution), everything we are doing, ya Rabbi, make us to be pure and clean, for what? Not the body. The body is going into the dirt, but the purity of the soul.

اَللّٰهُمَّ اجْعَلْنِىْ مِنَ التَّوَّابِيْنَ وَاجْعَلْنِىْ مِنَ الْمُتَطَهِّرِيْنَ

Allahummaj ‘alni minat tawwabina, waj’alni minal mutatahhirin.

O Allah make me to be from those who repent and make me from those who are purified.

Women Represent the Reality of the Soul Within

Prophet ﷺ then says, ‘Allah (AJ) made dear for me – women.’ It is not physical. It has nothing to do with physical women but the reality of this zawj. That, ‘make dear for me the soul’, the soul of myself, the soul of my Companions. And one of the names of Sayyidina Muhammad ﷺ is Abu Arwah, the father of the arwah (souls). Nurul anwar wa sirratul asrar (light of every secret and secret of every light), that every light is coming from Prophet ﷺ. It cannot come from Allah (AJ) to go back to Allah (AJ), la sharik (has no partner). It comes from the Ocean of Muhammadun RasulAllah ﷺ and it returns to the Ocean of Muhammadun RasulAllah ﷺ. ‘Made dear for me this reality of souls. Keep it pure, keep it clean. Allah (AJ) made it dear for me,’ and then its proof is, then ‘made my salah to be the coolness of my eyes. That Allah (AJ) made dear for me my salah and it becomes the coolness of my eyes.’

(عَنِ الْمُغَيِّرَةِ بِنْ شُعْبَةٍ، رَضِّيَّ اللهُ عَنْهُ،، قَالَ: قَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ صَلَّىٰ اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ:« جُعِلَتْ قُرَّةُ عَيْنِيّ فِي الصَّلَاَةِ » صَحِيحْ اَلجَامِعْ الصَغِير وَزِيادَتِهِ ، حَدِيثْ (٣٠٩٨

‘Anal Mughira bin Shu’bah (ra) Qala, Qala Rasulullahi ﷺ “Ju’yelat qurratu ‘ayni fis salati.” (Sahih aljami’ as saghir wa ziyadah, hadith 3098)

Narrated Mugeerah (may Allah be pleased with him), “He (the Prophet – may Allah bless him and grant him peace) said, ‘“The coolness of my eyes has been made in the prayer.’ [Sahih al-Jaami as-Saghir wa Ziyaadah, Hadith 3098]

Safeguard and Purify Your Soul – She will Give Fragrance

If your soul is fragranced, clean and pak and you clean it with zikrullah (remembrance of Allah (AJ)), you clean it with durood sharif, you clean it with istiqam and the firmness of your belief. That your belief is there to keep everything of harm away from this passenger that I am carrying within me. Because we have ghairah (sense of honor). We are not the people who prostitute our women. You don’t prostitute the most important one inside of you. When you let yourself open for everything, Allah (AJ) is asking, ‘You are destroying your soul. This is a delicate being I gave to you. Your responsibility was to safeguard her, nourish her, protect her. She will be a fragrance for you. She will be the coolness of your salah (prayer).

﴾يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا عَلَيْكُمْ أَنفُسَكُمْ ۖ لَا يَضُرُّكُم مَّن ضَلَّ إِذَا ٱهْتَدَيْتُمْ ۚ إِلَى اللَّـهِ مَرْجِعُكُمْ جَمِيعًا فَيُنَبِّئُكُم بِمَا كُنتُمْ تَعْمَلُونَ ﴿١٠٥

5:105 – “Yaaa aiyuhal lazeena aamanoo ‘alaikum anfusakum. Laa yadurrukum man dalla iza ahtadaitum; ilallaahi marji’ukum jami’an fayunabbi’ukum bimaa kuntum ta’maloon” (Surat Al-Maidah)

“O you who believe, Guard your own souls: If you follow (right) guidance, no harm can come to you from those who have gone stray. The return of you all is to Allah. He will inform you of all that you did.” (The Table Spread, 5:105)

Because that powered soul when it prays, it’s praying in Allah’s (AJ) Divinely Presence. Because the body was Islam, the soul is Iman, the purified soul is Maqamul Ihsan (Station of Moral Excellence) and Maqamul Ihsan is that all your ibadah (worship) as if you see Allah (AJ). There are awliyaullah (saints) who see what Allah (AJ) wants them to see, Ahlul Basirah (people of spiritual vision). They are not blind leading blind people, their heart is open. As a result, Allah (AJ) shows them and all their worshipness is as if they see Allah (AJ) from whatever Allah (AJ) wants to show them. And if you didn’t reach there, at least know that Allah (AJ) is watching you.

قَالَ: فَأَخْبِرْنِي عَنْ الْإِحْسَانِ، قَالَ: أَنْ تَعْبُدَ اللَّهَ كَأَنَّك تَرَاهُ، فَإِنْ لَمْ تَكُنْ تَرَاهُ فَإِنَّهُ يَرَاك

Qala Fa akhberni ‘an al Ihsan.

Qala: An ta’bud Allaha, Ka annaka tarahu, fa in lam takun tarahu fa innahu yarak.

Now, tell me about spiritual excellence (ihsan).”

The Prophet (pbuh) replied, “It is to serve/worship Allah as though you behold/see Him; and if you don’t behold/see him, (know that) He surely sees you.” Prophet Muhammad (saws)

A Successful Physical Marriage Requires a Happy Marriage Within

So, it means the successful marriage of dunya (material world) requires the successful marriage of your soul first. So, it means this way of tazkiya (purification), this way of ma’rifah (gnosticism) is that we perfect ourself, perfect our character. If you are a fragrance and a person of reaching perfection, you begin to understand that that physical marriage, its importance. How am I going to safeguard now my physical marriage? If I am an oppressor to myself, I will oppress everything around me. Doesn’t mean there is no struggle. Life is every moment is a struggle. Prophet ﷺ said, ‘Ya Rabbi, don’t leave me to my nafs (ego) for a blink of an eye.’

اللَّهُمَّ لَا تَكِلْنِي إِلَى نَفْسِي طَرْفَةَ عَيْنٍ وَلَا أَقَلَّ مِنْ ذَلِكَ

“Allahumma laa takilnee ila nafsee tarfat `aynin wa laa aqala min dhalika.”

“O Allah! Don’t leave me to my ego for the blink of an eye or less.” Prophet Muhammad (pbuh)

You don’t ever reach anything until you get into the grave. This battle is continuous, this struggle is continuous and not until we enter the grave, then something else begins to open. So, it means the one who is perfecting and trying to work upon themself, they begin to understand, and they begin to perfect the marriage of their physicality. That, ya Rabbi, as I am safeguarding my soul, I am responsible for the soul and the physical person that I am married to. My responsibility is to safeguard them, take care of them, nurture them, treat them with respect and with honour and with dignity. And their responsibility to uphold your honour and your dignity.

Don’t Dishonour Your Spouse by Speaking Negatively About Them

Tariqa comes and tells women never talk about your husband to anyone. It’s Tark al adab (disrespect) and Prophet ﷺ became angry with you. Don’t talk to anyone about your husband. Don’t go from left person to right person, saying, ‘this guy is crappy guy. This guy is like this, this guy is like that.’ The angels will curse you. Don’t talk. What you don’t like, don’t talk. Because now you are being pulled into dishonouring and your half of the contract will be in trouble. Now if the person is dishonourable and the person is bad, that is Allah’s (AJ) Hand upon them. But shaitan trying to pull you also into something bad. Rabia al Adawiya, a female awliya, how much she took difficulty and stayed quiet, stayed quiet. So even the adab (manners) they come to teach. So, then this life, you safeguard the rights. The woman safeguards the rights and the honour of her husband and the husband’s responsibility is to take care and nourish and protect.

La Ya’lamoon – The Soulmate You Have Yet to Discover

Then the reality of the Paradise. That reality in which Allah (AJ) ‘la ya’lamoon’, that reality which you don’t know and in which Hollywood comes to tell you, ‘That’s your soulmate. Oh, I have this person that is going to be my soulmate.’ So I marry them, and ‘You are going to be my soulmate.’ No, you are incorrect. You are not going to be my soulmate.

Someone came to Prophet ﷺ and asked, ‘Ya Sayyidi ya Rasul al Kareem, I married somebody and I loved him so much and he died in battle. And then I married somebody else, and then he died from a sickness. Life was hard. Then I married somebody else. Ya Sayyidi ya Rasul al Kareem, I am married, what will be my case?’ This is something like we are all forced to be somewhere where we don’t want to be?

Prophet’s ﷺ rahmah (mercy) and Allah (AJ) described Allah’s (AJ) Rahmah, you will be free. Allah (AJ) will ask you, ‘Who did you love?’ Because hadith of Prophet ﷺ – how Prophet ﷺ brings his hadith to clarify issues of Allah (AJ). Allah (AJ) will ask you, when you are raised, ‘Who did you love? The first one whom you loved? And through marriage or war or conflict you had to marry different people.’ Allah (AJ) will ask, ‘Who is it that you love? You will be with who you love.’ That is why we started with, be careful who you love. People are so free to give their heart out and you end up with them for eternity. Those whom are in difficulty, Allah (AJ) will ask them, ‘You will be with whom you love.’

قَالَ رَسُول اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه و سلم: الْمَرْءُ مَعَ مَنْ أَحَب

Qala Rasulullah (saws): “Almar o, ma’a man ahab.”

Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) said: “One is with those whom he loves.”

Love Sayyidina Muhammad ﷺ, He Will Never Let You Down!

The greatest – that is why awliyaullah (saints) come into our lives and say, ‘We are going to clarify your love – not for him, not for her – your love is for Sayyidina Muhammad ﷺ. He is never going to let you down.’ Men and women, you are going to let each other down like you can’t imagine. Some say, ‘I would never want to be raised with that person.’ And they think they are tormented. They are taught back home, ‘You are there forever,’ and they have been put into that at a young age and forced. No, no this is not the hadith of Prophet ﷺ. They will ask. Allah (AJ) will ask, ‘Who is it that you love?’

A Wakeel Guards the Soul and Gives Permission to Get Married

That is why awliyaullah (saints) come and the greatness of what they are teaching. When you say ‘a wali’, we went to a marriage. He is a wali and a wakeel (representative) for your soul. Your soul that is in Paradise, it wants to be married. It wants to reach towards its zawj, its reality. And you are about to enter the wrong marriage. You are about to love the wrong things from this dunya (material world). When Allah (AJ) assigned for you a wali (saint), an awliya (saint), it’s like the marriage we went to. He is your wakeel. Immediately, he is guarding your soul and he has to give the permission.

So when your love is wrong and your love is incorrect to what Allah (AJ) wants, he says, ‘Are you giving permission?’ The wakeel (representative) says, ‘No.’ Are you giving permission? The wakeel says, ‘No.’ And then the testing comes down to Earth to slap this way, slap that way, slap this way, slap that way to put the person back onto the path that Allah (AJ) wants. You are about to permanently lock your soul into something you can’t imagine. So, Allah’s (AJ) amazing Rahmah (mercy) is that a wakeel and a wali (saint) and is not something small, not something you deny in this dunya, but he is safeguarding that reality because the wakeel (representative) has to give permission. We went to a wedding this weekend. They said, ‘You be the wakeel. Go ask. Are you giving permission that such and such wants to come to marry you?’ That wali (pious servant) in that presence says, ‘No, we are not giving permission.’

We speak on behalf of the soul that is behind us, by “ati ullah at ar rasul wa ulil amri minkum.” They have been given permission and izzatullah wa izzat ar rasul wa izzat al mu’mineen.

﴾أَطِيعُواللَّه وَأَطِيعُوٱلرَّسُولَ وَأُوْلِي الْأَمْرِ مِنْكُمْ… ﴿٥٩…

4:59 – “…Atiullaha wa atiur Rasula wa Ulil amre minkum…” (Surat An-Nisa)

“… Obey Allah, Obey the Messenger, and those in authority among you…” (The Women, 4:59)

﴾وَلِلَّهِ الْعِزَّةُ وَلِرَسُولِهِ وَلِلْمُؤْمِنِينَ… ﴿٨

63:8 – “…Wa Lillahil ‘izzatu wa li Rasooli hi wa lil Mumineen…” (Surat Al-Munafiqoon)

“…And to Allah belongs [all] honor, and to His messenger, and to the believers…” (The Hypocrites, 63:8)

An izzat from Allah (AJ), ‘Answer on their behalf. You are their wakeel (representative). These souls have been partitioned to you, you are the wakeel for that soul,’ and they are not allowing that love to begin to manifest upon that soul. And that is the soul of the soulmate, that you have your reality of your soul always in Divinely Presence. If you perfect the love of this physicality and it loves whom Allah (AJ) loves, and loves Sayyidina Muhammad ﷺ.

Urs is the Blessed Union of the Soul With Its Origin

Then why we celebrate the Urs Mubarak (Blessed Union/death anniversary), Right? Awliyaullah (saints), big celebration, why? They achieved. They made the perfection of their love in this dunya (material world) perfect the way Allah (AJ) wants it. The anfusihum, the one inside of them perfectly in love with Sayyidina Muhammad ﷺ. Their urs is their aroosi (marriage). Their urs (Union/death anniversary) is their marriage, that they are free from the physicality and they be will be reunited with that which they spent all their time loving, and their soul goes back into that Ocean of Love. There is no physicality, no sex involved in this. This is an Ocean of Light that goes back into that Ocean and back to where it came from. We said many times before, like drops of water. You put the drop of water, drop of water, drop of water, drop of water [Shaykh demonstrates with a glass of water]. In the end, if I put ten thousand drops, its but one ocean of water. It means malakut (heavenly realm) is singularity, and what they are teaching is the perfection of that love, Urs Mubarak, their soul goes deep into the reality, into the haqaiq, and into the heart of Sayyidina Muhammad ﷺ. That is why everything around them is a celebration. All of the heavens is celebrating that one from Earth reached Allah’s (AJ) True Love. And now he is going to be reunited with his real love and his real zawj (mate), back to his origin, back to his reality.

Subhaana rabbika rabbil izzati amma yasifoon wa salamun alal mursalin walhamdulillahi rabbil alamin. Bi hurmatil Muhammad al Mustafa wa bi sirri surat al Fatiha.

Special thanks to our transcribers for their help with transcribing this suhbah.

Date of Original Suhbah: August 21, 2017

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